‘The prophet used to spend the last 10 days of Ramadan in the mosque until the demise, after that his wives followed him and they did the same’ (Bukharis & Muslim)

Introduction:

Women can get lost in translations, it is easy for them to multitask, impossible to stop caring for others and  far to often overlooking own interest at heart becomes a second nature to them. What might had worked in the past for female folk is no longer reality in 21 century. Anthropologically speaking as humans we are built to live a tribal life. It meant for female that she received the constant support from the ‘village’ to bring up her children but also influence her , support her, nourish her and guide her.

Majority of us living in the cities today, where not only we have to cope with fast-paced life but also suffer with a chronic lack of support and time. It seems as we are on an autopilot, tangled  in multitude of roles , tasks and responsibilities for the sake of a greater good: family. Religion is backing us up with sanctified verses such as : “If a woman prays her five [daily prayers], fasts her month [Ramadan], guards her chastity and obeys her husband, she will be told to enter paradise from whichever gate she wishes.”(Ibn Hibban)

Yes, we do what we suppose to do with minimum appreciation from immediate family and lets be honest – society and Ummah. We experience a burn out almost quarterly, as our biological clock is programmed by school brakes. And then, only then can we collapse (and produce flus, colds, migraines, etc.) as its socially accepted. However, through the rest of the year we suppress emotions with chocolates, period pains with aspirin, religious voids with self-blame, loneliness with the Neflix. Never would we dear to ask a question: who will lessen the burden of housework for us? Who will cook a dinner tonight? who will organise free child care?

We are definitely not recognised for who we are but rather for a role we play. Sadly, for some of us it is the only self-concept we possess. We forget that there are many dimensions to our existence. Women are not only ‘human doings’ but also a ‘human beings’. “As for those who lead a righteous life, male or female. While believing, they enter paradise; without the slightest injustice”. (Quran 4:124). Islam grants equality in spiritual and self developmental practices, where both genders are required to take responsibility for their state of Adab, Qalb and Nafs.

Muslim women feel the void inside of them, and try to fill their vessel during Ramadan. But guess what – they do not have a chance for the isolation as the current community does not support female’s Itikaf. ‘The prophet used to spend the last 10 days of Ramadan in the mosque until the demise, after that his wives followed him and they did the same’ (Bukharis & Muslim).

Yet there are new ways of seeking isolation, peace of mind and reconnection  during a halal female getaways. Retreats are not only a reward for a hard work, but rather a means to reach the goal: inner sanity, peace, understanding, sakina. Retreats serve as the getaway from routine, getaway from duties, getaway from mechanical life into self-respect in the environment of caring and supporting women. Women just like you. Recent studies proven that women’s mental health can improve due to one factor only – regular girl chat. The female folk requires a safe space of sisterhood, which will inspire, reassure, love and support them unconditionally. Women talk, women listen, women have a laughter together, women heal together

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Here is a quick checklist to get you started with free therapy session. Remember imperfect action beats inaction, get started and keep re investing in your growth for Khair!

• Create your vision board

• Reflect on things which you know Must Go in order for your life to change

• Start planning your therapy sessions topics by Identifying what resonates with your Heart.

• Create an outline the list of your Eternal Life goals.

• Write down the conversations you normally have with your self, like if you were telling a story to a friend

• Pick the most disturbing sentences and connect them with emotions you feeling when you hear them

• Perform several Ibadah types consciously (taddabur, dua, prayers, sadaka, fasting) and Honestly reflect on what is it you experiencing and what is it that you were hoping to experience

• Write down reasons why some of your relationships broke down and be clear on your ways about it as well

• Have a courage to name things you appreciate about your self, or are proud of - or ask you family and friends to remind you

• Take 10 minutes to edit your list and BOOK A CALL WITH AJ !